Male Secrets ?


A spent more than we find, in the computer recharged sexual history pages or find our boyfriend or husband looking excited high voltage sites . A specialist helps us think about it and understand where it comes from .

And one day she wanted to know why her husband stayed a while at the computer while she read comfortably in bed. He supposed it was his obsession to work, until he discovered that the reason was the porn sites ...

That will encourage more men with women porn is not new . The "triple X" films are meant to be seen by men : much intercourse, erotic short , one or more exuberant women challenging the prodigious virility , some fetish accessories, all sentences to music with moans and begging for more .

When using visual stimuli women prefer movies with more explicit sex erotic deployment . They get bored of seeing the same sequence of events but the stories of sexual encounters are different.

Behind closed doors

Early experiences in relation to the discovery of the body and sexuality are crucial for the future. Many men who like porn played a habit that has been fixed in adolescence, when locked in the bathroom or in the bathroom to masturbate .

Married life does not necessarily exclude these behaviors so ingrained , because through them leads to a level of excitement that is uniquely personal . Do not forget that sexuality is constructed in the privacy of one's world , being fixed to subjectivity as an aspect of uniqueness .

There are also men who need to lower blood masturbate or concerns and to this end are connected with porn . When asked why they do not respond to the couple is to download and not the erotic encounter , which would take more time and a different arrangement .

In these cases it is advisable not lead to the couple believed conjecture or damaging the relationship conflicts are triggered . For those who assume that all links must be known and shared acceptance of an intimate , personal conduct, is often difficult. Communicate your own needs helps to end the assumptions and , if given the affective conditions, develop a sexuality with other variants .

 Hypersexual desire

In some men , sexual desire can be increased (at least in the last six months) leading the subject to need to masturbate (most likely) or sexual encounters ( less likely) and have a minimum of 7 orgasms a week. This condition of increased sex drive , which can occur from adolescence and persist throughout life , or may be transient , called Hypersexuality , and is mediated by the high desire and not by the impulse to discharge sexual tension as occurs in Sexual Compulsions (or sex addiction ) .

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However it has been shown that the presence of anxiety and the experience of frustration and emptiness that appear in the depressions may increase sexual desire as a pleasant way to get reinforcements or some degree of gratification. Increased sexual desire hypersexual type is more common in men ( about 10% of male respondents ) . Causal hypotheses suggest testosterone and reward circuitry mediated by the transmitter dopamine ( inhibitory circuits control desire or increased excitability ) . Women have been less studied although there are references to female hypersexuality with anxiety disorders , depression and bipolar disorder.

 Porn on sex addiction

In the pathological extreme are those men ( and less often women) who desperately need to watch porn , masturbate and / or have sexual encounters urgent . The driving force guides the subject to get a sexual stimulus that allows you to lower high levels of psychological stress . In so-called " sex addiction " or " sexual compulsions " , the subject can not control the urge , with the problems that this entails : dating , employment, family , economic, etc. . Compulsive masturbation, "express sex", the urgent search for pornographic material, hotlines , web sites, etc. . , Are some of the most frequent behaviors.

The conflict between impulse and moral rules becomes a concern that the subject believes weakens causing more guilt and frustration, the circuit feeding back anxiety. In many cases there are underlying personality disorders : Obsessive , avoidant ( fearful subjects) , or covert depression.

 Addiction


The "pure" or primary sexual addiction should be differentiated from the states of high arousal caused by drugs such as cocaine (and derivatives) , amphetamines or other stimulants in these cases the increase of erotic desire is due to the action of the substance . According to the National Council of Sexual Addiction in the U.S., 40 % of patients lose their compulsive sexual partner , 72 % had suicidal ideation , 17% had attempted suicide , 27% have labor problems , 68% is likely for HIV , 40 % are unwanted pregnancies and 36% aborted.